27: 3 Ways to Let Go of Mom Guilt

Summary: Join Sydney and Taylor for an emotional conversation on something nearly every mother knows all too well: mom guilt. Sydney reveals how she’s struggled adjusting from being a stay-at-home mom to one who works outside the home. She shares three practices she’s implementing to help remove mom guilt, and Taylor gives her perspective of growing up with a working mom and why she’s thankful for her mother’s decision to have a career.

 

Takeaways

  • We can’t find happiness and alignment within people and things. Peace lies within our own subconscious.
  • Be present. There is more peace in our lives than we accept.
  • Let help in and be willing to accept whatever form it comes in.
  • Ask yourself in any situation where you’re feeling guilt: “Is this actually true?”
  • Giving your child a “perfect” experience each day sets up unrealistic expectations for them (and for you).
  • If we could show ourselves more grace, that gives our children more permission to do the same.
  • You can instantly change your life by changing your perspective.

 

Show Notes

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26: How to End Your Pain and Fear Once and For All

Join Sydney and Taylor in a raw conversation unlike any episode we’ve done so far. Taylor leads an in-depth discussion based off of her experience reading chapter three of Eckhart Tolle’s book “The Power of Now: A Guide to Spiritual Enlightenment.” She’s been practicing Tolle’s principle that the only real thing is what’s happening right NOW – not the past, not the future – and to only put your energy toward the present. Taylor explains specific points around this teaching that has helped her release trapped emotions and made her feel like a completely different person.

 

Takeaways

  • Time is an illusion: If time doesn’t exist, your mind is at ease because you’ve taken the pressures off of yourself.
  • The only thing that’s real is what’s happening right now. Not the past and not the future.
  • If you’re thinking about the past or thinking about the future, you aren’t living in the present.
  • We are not our minds. Use it as a tool but don’t be run by your mind.
  • Time isn’t precious. What’s happening right now is precious.
  • We can be aligned anywhere in the world at any point in time by choosing to live in the NOW.
  • Worrying about the future is giving away our now.
  • Is there joy, ease or lightness in what you’re doing? If there isn’t, time is covering up the present moment. You cannot give your fullest attention to something and also resist it.
  • Do not be focused on the final result, just pay attention to the process and the final result will come.
  • A problem is a situation in which we put worry and fear.
  • Problems and suffering both need time to survive. Don’t give the problems and suffering time and they will be gone.
  • Focus on the now and all your problems will dissolve.
  • Don’t be anxious about tomorrow: You are provided for *abundantly* by God. There’s more than enough for everybody.
  • You can use the knowledge you learned from the past and your hope for the future to plan presently.
  • Matter-of-fact planning and not worrying about the outcome is how you can plan and stay present.
  • Be where you are.
  • We make our lives harder by not being present. Focus on the now and your life will flow with joy and ease.
  • You are complete and whole NOW. You do not have to look to the future for fulfillment.

 

Show Notes

Our Kickstarter now to get our limited edition “What the Eff” sweatshirt!

Eckhart Tolle’s book “The Power of Now: A Guide to Spiritual Enlightenment.”

Sign up for the Cove newsletter: https://covewear.com/ (You can sign up for the newsletter on the slider or at the bottom of the main page)

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25. THE POWER OF NOW

SUMMARY:

In episode 25, we’re talking about exactly how to live in the NOW. We’ve all experienced our brains jumping into the future and projecting/stressing about what *could* happen (sometimes multiple times a day). We’re discussing why this can be so damaging to yourself and limiting your ability to achieve your goals. Sydney reveals how she works with her kids to help them live in the present, and Taylor shares the one word she says to herself when she’s projecting worries in her mind. And if there’s one thing you take away from this episode, it’s that you need to buy one of our favorite books right now!

 

TAKEAWAYS:

  • When you are worrying, you’re taking your body out of the present. You’re worrying about something that doesn’t exist.
  • Whenever we worry, we’re creating drama in our lives.
  • We can monitor our minds to be aware of the narrative that’s happening in the brain and to remind ourselves to be in the present.
  • Go buy “The Power of Now” now!

 

SHOW NOTES:

Eckhart Tolle’s book “The Power of Now: A Guide to Spiritual Enlightenment.”

This Facebook video perfectly illustrates how we feel doing anything before 9 a.m.

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24: Trust Your Desire

Summary: In this episode, we discuss the vitality of trusting that the universe is working to give you what you want! Taylor shares how she did the exact opposite of this when she moved to Georgia and how that panned out for her, and how she and Sydney are working to implement this truth as they expand their company. We also answer some listener questions, including what priming looks like for us these days and how we’re achieving balance in the midst of growing a business, moving to a new city and maintaining relationships. We also have some exciting Kickstarter news, so listen in and get ready to trust that the universe is going to manifest what you want!

 

Takeaways:

  • Place your order with the universe and trust that it is coming to you.
  • Your desires should always be taken seriously. They were given to you to guide you along – so trust in them.
  • If you’re fighting resistance in achieving your flow, it’s your invitation to change.
  • We’re launching a Kickstarter Monday that will help you wear your truth and help this podcast go bigger!

 

Show Notes

Guided Meditation on Gratitude: 15 Minute Miracle Exercise Attract Abundance and Miracles: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YqMKZMHO_H8

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23: Bigger is Better

Summary:

In this episode we discuss how we’re going to start dreaming bigger. Like, BIG, bigger. We share the story behind one of our major goals for the company, and how it was unexpectedly brought to new levels that even WE hadn’t dared to dream for ourselves. This episode is for you if you’re ready to start trusting more in your path and the universe’s abundant plan for you, and if you’re ready to see the “unrealistic” things you want in your life, start showing up in even bigger, better, unexpected ways.

Takeaways:

  • Set your intention and start where you know how. The rest of the “hows” will come to you.
  • Give the universe the opportunity to work for you, by taking inspired action in the best way you know how.
  • Get moving! Your course will correct or the new best option for your path will be presented to you.
  • Dream  bigger, beyond what’s realistic, beyond what you’d classify as “hard” and watch what comes to you.
  • The Universe/God knows you and will use your desires to bring you the greater, bigger, amazing things that you haven’t even thought of yourself.
  • How can you think bigger? Not just in business but in your personal life as well?
  • Go there first in your mind, so that it can manifest into reality.
  • Don’t define what your success and your story looks like based on anyone else’s struggle. You get to define what your path looks like. Let it flow.
  • Move from working in grind mode, to working in flow mode
  • Dream bigger and watch what happens

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22: If You Want a Different Life, Go Above and Beyond Your Norm, and Give Yourself the Freedom to Fail

Summary

This episode is all about what going above and beyond the norm looks and feels like in real life right now. We want different for our lives, so we’re LIVING differently, CHOOSING differently, and remaining open to all possibilities because we know that despite fears or failure, it’s all for our highest good. This episode is perfect for you if you want to get a real take on what all this looks like in the lives of two young entrepreneurs in the middle of taking some big steps.

Takeaways

  • Sydney opens up about what this move ACTUALLY feels like right now.
  • Even when you know something is right, it doesn’t eliminate sadness or fear.
  • Learn to have a tolerance for both the good feelings and the fear, they’re holding hands and are both there for your learning and growth.
  • Taylor talks about how the opportunity to meet with Nordstrom (long time goal!) flowed into our lives, and how it presented an even better opportunity that we could’ve expected.
  • Do something different to get different results
  • Set your intention and then take the action you KNOW how to take so that the universe can show you how to take the action you wouldn’t know otherwise.
  • When you go above and beyond, your progression speeds up and it allows you to show up in ways you wouldn’t have otherwise.
  • “Every act of creation is at first an act of destruction.”
  • We talk about our freedom to fail, referencing the book, “Earth is Hiring” by Peta Kelly and what a privilege it is that we have the ability to creatively fail.

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21: Where The Eff Have We Been??

Summary:

After taking a few weeks off to focus on our other business, we’re back!! Before diving back in with regular content, we figured we’d take a minute to address what the past two months have looked like for us, where our focus has been, what we’ve learned, and answer some questions.

Takeaways:

– We discuss where we’re at right now, our biggest “what the eff moment” from the past two months, and what our goals are moving forward.

– An update about the move to Georgia. Sydney talks about selling her home.

– We get into what it feels like living in the unknown and how we’re upping our tolerance for ambiguity while keeping our thoughts and mindset in check.

– We discuss desires vs contentedness

– Taylor gives an update on her dating life

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20: Why You Need To Be Specific

Summary:

In this episode, we discuss one of our favorite simple but powerful tactics for bringing exactly what you want into all areas of your life, both business and personal. Go get what you want and let yourself have it!

Takeaways:

– Get specific about what you want, make a list of everything you’d like to come into your life, no stipulations

– Create moments or experiences that allow you to feel what it is that you want. You want your vibration to match the vibration of the thing that you want so that it will be able to come to you.

– We share personal experiences of how this has worked in our lives and how it can start working in yours

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19: Staying Present: Not letting your stories block your greatest life, with Henry Ammar

Summary

In today’s episode we sit down with Henry Ammar to discuss exactly how to stop getting caught up in the stories that take us away from the present moment. It’s time to drop all the ways we prevent the universe from gifting us the ability to create our greatest life.

 

Takeaways

– What does it mean to be present?
– How do you not let your perception of the now hold you back from what could be your greatest story?
– What’s a day-to-day practical way to shift your perception?
– How we’re learning to be in the total present and what’s started making that shift for us
– How we’re learning to drop the fear of the future and live our greatest life within the present
– How to let go of the limiting stories we tell ourselves
– What are some of the enemies are of being present?

 

Find Henry HERE!

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18: You Are What You Think

In this episode we dive deeper into the old adage “Whether you think you can, or you think you can’t, you’re right.” We talk about what it means to use the power of your mind to create the physical reality that you want, and the techniques that we’re using to instantly transform how we think about our businesses and our lives.

Takeaways:

  • Our perspective of the world is shaped when we’re children. We emulate our parents, and take with us their mindsets about things like money, body image, health, relationships. While there’s a lot of good that comes from that, if our parent’s reality isn’t something we want perpetuated in our own lives, it’s important to take a second look at what we perceive to be our reality and transform our thoughts to match what we want our story to be. Shed those limiting beliefs!
  • What it really means to believe the universe is supporting you in infinite ways, especially when it comes to money. And it has nothing to do with magic money falling from the sky. (Although don’t totally rule it out.)
  • Try shifting this mindset. You have nothing to lose and everything to gain.
  • Experiment. There are fun games you can play to demonstrate the power of your mind.
  • Your Belief That You Can Do It + Your Gratitude to God That You Are Doing It = The Results You Want To Obtain
  • “Everyday stand guard at the door of your mind.” -Jim Rohn
  • What an “I think” statement is and how it’s changing our priming routines.

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17: Taking yourself to the next level … today.

Today we’re discussing one of the best ways to take yourself and your life to the next level. Maybe you’ve experienced that feeling of excitement and inspiration after listening to an amazing podcast or reading a book that lights you on FIRE. But then what? It can be overwhelming trying to figure out how to get from ‘point A’ to the big, magical, deeply-fulfilling ‘point B’ that you want for your business and your life.

It can be even harder to find the right support system that will be there for you daily, lifting you, teaching you, and sharing in your readiness for more. We know that we are the average of the five people we spend the most time with, so when you’re ready to start taking BIG internal and external strides, it’s absolutely crucial to have “people.” Your people. People that will become significant members in your circle of five (or fifty or five hundred) while you collectively contribute to each other’s rise.

So our latest project, which we’re talking about today, has been to create the solution that will help you bridge the gap between your desire for change and real action. The right support system truly is your secret weapon. And if you can’t find your tribe where you are now, then come join ours! In this episode, we’ll dive into the specifics of what that looks like, and exactly how it’s going to help you take massive action on the next steps in your life and get you to the level you know you’re capable of.

 

IF YOU’D LIKE TO BE A PART OF THE GROUP, JUST CLICK HERE !

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16: Burn the effing boats!

Summary:

As Tony Robbins teaches, when people are given the option to either die or succeed, they tend to succeed. But most of us give ourselves a way out, so we don’t end up getting what we want. It’s critical to “burn the boats” that are your way out. Burn the boats and take the island! In this episode we talk about the big (and scary) ways that we’re doing that in our lives, what faith feels like right in the middle of having to exercise it and the ways the universe has showed up to support us.

Takeaways:

– Taylor on taking a big move as a single person for the first time but trusting it will all work out.

– Sydney on all the feelings behind putting her house on the market and moving her family across the country for her job

– What it means to Burn your boats and take the island

– Taylor on how her divorce and removing the financial stability of her marriage was the burning of her boat and how it was the best thing to ever happen for her

– Betting on yourself and what that looks like in the every day.

– Quote: “It’s pretty hard to win a game you don’t know where the goal is.” Get clear on your goal and burn the boats!!

– There is only plan A, there is no plan B. You might have version 1 or version 2, but it’s still PLAN A.

– What are the boats you need to burn?

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15: Change of plans, God is here. A BTS look into our photoshoot with model Katie Tebow, and how faith is the key to everything.

SUMMARY:

In this episode we dive into a behind the scenes look on our most recent photoshoot, with special guest and model, Katie Tebow! The week did not go how we planned and gave us a perfect example of how God/The Universe wants to how up in our lives in big and small ways. We also make a BIG ANNOUNCEMENT about our future.

TAKEAWAYS:

  • Trusting God and the Universe to show up in your life
  • Listening to your intuition – knowing when you need to make a change, big or small, and trust that God has a better plan for you.
  • Stay in gratitude, stay in flow.
  • Learning to remain calm and positive in all circumstances
  • Chasing your dreams, no matter your age or circumstances – don’t box yourself in.
  • Don’t let the fear of failure stop you from trying.
  • Take a chance on yourself
  • Living in faith daily
  • Don’t worry about the “how”, just show up with faith and God will meet you and exceed your expectations every time.

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14: Owning your True Identity and Taking Responsibility for your Own Happiness

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13: HOW TO SEE YOUR PROBLEMS AS OPPORTUNITIES

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13: HOW TO SEE YOUR PROBLEMS AS OPPORTUNITIES
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Bonus 02: a behind the scenes update on our startup company

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12: CC Miller is here to tell you there is no perfect moment. Get over yourself and just start.

Summary:

CC Miller is a mother, turned photographer, turned accidental interior designer, turned young adult fiction author. The woman knows how to pivot and she does it well. If you are looking for that boost of motivation to stop waiting for the perfect moment, and just START already, CC is your girl. She knows how to follow her creative intuition and this episode is here to help you get in tune with yours.

Take Aways:

  • Just start – don’t worry about step 30, only worry about step 1
  • Get comfortable in the uncomfortable and claim who you want to be, even before you truly feel comfortable owning it.
  • If there’s something you’re passionate about, one thing, multiple things… if there’s something you can’t go a day without thinking about … that is your passion and you need to take the first step in pursuing it.
  • There is no perfect moment to start and there is no perfect moment after you start
  • At the end of your life, you’ll end up being more disappointed by the things you didn’t do than by the things you did do. Just DO them. It won’t be perfect, but you’ll regret it if you don’t.
  • Your happiness is never going to be in the destination. The destination’s happiness expires. It’s right here and right now, and what can you do today to enjoy it.
  • Looking forward is where you feel overwhelmed. Focus on today. Ask yourself what you need to do today.
  • Stop being one dimensional and putting yourself in boxes. We are all multi-dimensional. Give yourself permission to pivot, and pivot multiple times.
  • Some people are afraid to start because they’re afraid that they’ll never be quite as good at a new thing, as they may have been with something else in the past. Show up and just start. That IS your success.

Show Notes:

Website: www.ccandmike.com

Instagram: ccandmikecreative

CC’s book: Magnetic 

CC’s Print Shop

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11: Priming! How to transform your life starting NOW.

Summary:

If you’ve ever heard us talk about “priming” before and been curious about how to start implementing it into your own life, then this is the episode for you. Today we dissect the method that has transformed our lives and once enabled Taylor to attend a $16,000 event for only $3,000.

 

Take Aways:

  • Alignment before action!
  • Steps to priming (our steps, but do whatever works for you, there is no one way):

1.) Gratitude: Give gratitude for everything that is working in your life. Take time to sit and feel it. Like attracts like, so the more gratitude you feel on a daily basis, the more good things you will attract into your life.

2.) Three to Thrive: This technique we learned from Tony Robbins and is one of our favorite steps. Envision 3 goals that will help you THRIVE in your life! Allow yourself to feel the happiness and joy you will feel when you reach that goal. Think out your goal, see it happening, feel it, write it down and give gratitude for it in the present tense as if it has already happened. This one is powerful! Get ready for miracles.

3.) Get physical with your emotions: It’s important to not only visualize your goals and the things you want to manifest, but to get them into your body. Feel the emotions you will feel when you manifest the thing(s) you are working on! Turn music on, jump up and down, get excited! Whatever works for you!

4.) Spiritual reading: Personally we are both very spiritual and study scriptures each day. But if that isn’t your thing then add in a self help or business book. Just something to expand your mind and connect to something new that day.

5.) Meditation: It is so important to meditate and clear your mind. Lots of studies show the health benefits of it too. Personally I like to do guided ones, One World Academy has some of my favorites (see below in show notes). Sydney does a combination of guided ones and ones on her own where she plays vibrational frequencies from YouTube (see show notes).

6.) Write down intuition/inspiration: Sit and be still with a notebook near by. Let the Spirit, God, the Universe, talk to you with direct revelation and inspiration. When you give God, the Universe, whatever you want to call it, a chance to talk to you, it’s amazing what you will hear. Be still and listen.

 

Show Notes:

Our two online courses: Actually, I Can and What the Eff Wednesdays

One World Academy “Gratitude”  meditation

One World Academy “Soul Sync” meditation

Tony Robbins Business Mastery

Tony Robbins Priming Video

Youtube vibrational meditation music 

Youtube rainforest sounds 

 

 

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10: Elle Rowley will make you believe that you can turn your small business into a million dollar one.

Summary:

Elle Rowley is the woman who has and does it all, and yet somehow doesn’t make you feel bad about yourself. She is the CEO of her company Solly Baby, a luxury baby-wrap line, and is one of the 2% of female entrepreneurs not only to MAKE IT but to hit that million dollar mark. While homeschooling her four children. Elle makes us believe in small business and makes me believe that 2% is possible. Because she was right there with us in the trenches only three short years ago.

Show Notes:

What The Eff Courses: Actually, I Can.

What The Eff Wednesdays Discussions

Solly Baby Wrap

Solly Baby Wrap Instagram

Solly Baby Wrap Facebook

What The Eff Facebook

 

 

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09: Ignore the last episode, everything has changed!

The last 24 hours has changed everything we thought we knew. Read more

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BONUS 01: Taylor Got Divorced Today

She’s officially divorced, and she’s sharing it all here. Read more

BONUS 01: Taylor Got Divorced Today
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08: How to let go and trust that the universe is actually supporting you

Shedding the stories we tell ourselves and recognizing when the universe is sending you an invitation.

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07: Jairek Robbins Will Help You Harness the Power of Your Mind

Best-selling author and performance coach, Jairek Robbins discusses visualization, manifesting and the power of your mind.

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06: Sydney on Motherhood, Business, Self Doubt and Turning It All Around

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06: Sydney on Motherhood, Business, Self Doubt and Turning It All Around
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05: It’s not a matter of IF but WHEN.

An interview with Henry Ammar on breaking the rules and making it happen. Read more

05: It’s not a matter of IF but WHEN.
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04: So you want to start a business?

How Taylor pushed past limiting beliefs and started her dream company. Read more

04: So you want to start a business?
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03: The importance of finding out who you are.

Jenna Rammell on her journey to self discovery and acceptance.      Read more

03: The importance of finding out who you are.
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02: Are you listening to your intuition?

A conversation between Sydney and Taylor on harnessing your inner power to get what you want. Read more

02: Are you listening to your intuition?
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01: Screw it, we’re doing this.

Who the eff are we and why did we start this podcast?         Read more

01: Screw it, we’re doing this.
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